Guys and Girls guide to: Single but not Available people

you are at a club and you see this hot girl/guy dancing alone.  you walk up to this person and

strike a conversation.  you hit it off and then they tell you that he/she just broke up with their partner or that they were just dumped... that should be a big sign to STAY CLEAR of this person.... YES..he/she's single, BUT more or less still very hung up on the ex.  they might not be emotionally available to carry a potential relationship.

if your goal was just to have sex with this person..GO AHEAD by all means.  this person might jump you in a heartbeat even if you're the ugliest human being on earth..they're very vulnerable at this stage.

If you are attracted to this person to the point you're actually contemplating on a potential relationship -- that's where we're in a bind.

this could go wrong in a couple of ways for you... you might become:

• FISH BAIT -- this person could be luring you to make the ex jealous.  this is a classic. when the ex is finally jealous and asks the person back -- that's it for you buddy.. game over.
• ASPHALT -- you know those black things that cover the bumps on the road? yep... that's who you are at this point.  he/she is trying to show the world that they're happy and not hurting inside. masking all the real feelings
• ATM -- yep...they're just after you for the money.  they just need some benefactors.  someone to buy them anything they want or to drive them all over the place.
• AIRPORT -- basically a lay over.  you're the person that will help him/her move on and then they'll move on without you.  sooner or later they discover that they don't REALLY want to be with you and looks for a person that (usually) resembles the ex.
• FRIEND -- hhmm..well..do i still have to explain? they're just in need of a shoulder to cry on.  this is usually for guys.  you might think that there's something going on between the two of you, but sorry to say..you're still in the friendzone.
• ASS -- (for girls) yep, just a piece of ass that they can just hump on call.  they have to release all that bottled up jizz somewhere.  will do the next available stupid person.

how to avoid this?  here are SOME of the basic stop signs:

• when this first word that comes out of their mouth is -- "MY EX and I just broke up". shake his/her hand and run away as fast as you can.  if they don't have feelings for the ex thats not the first thing that they'll tell you.
• if he/she can't stop talking about their ex -- you'll be stupid if you think there's hope there.  if your entire conversation has atleast 25% stories about their past relationship..still very much hung up & you should hang up on this person too.
• "aaww..thats his/her favorite" -- whatever favorite stuff we're talking about here, there shouldn't be any kind of reaction towards that. 
• still wearing any kind of reminder of the past relationship -- wedding ring, engagement ring, necklace, earrings, pin, shirt, shoes...this only means that they haven't really moved on.  i know that they'll give you some kind of excuse, but believe me..its all crap!! (i have personally given a thousand excuses before)
• still have the exs picture in their phones/facebook/room --  you're just plain dumb or downright stupid if you believe any crappy explanation this person gives you.. "but i look good in that picture"  seriously?! you have a billion pictures in your facebook and you only look good in that one? if they really want to, that picture was taken down the moment they broke up.
• the ex is still on speed dial -- they can be really good friends but still he/she shouldn't be on speed dial.
• "i hate him/her. he/she ruined my life" -- any sort of anger is a sign that the person is still hurt.  the only way you'll get hurt is when you have feelings for this person.

some people may say that i am very cynical, but trust me am not.  i've been on ALL sides of this equation.  i more or less know how each person feels.  as the person who is falling in love with someone who is technically NOT available, you can always be there...BUT make sure that you stand your ground and set some boundaries.  never let your guard down, or else you'll just end up on the curb.    

Mo Twister -- The Bearer of Ugly Truth

DJ Mo Twister or Mohan Gumatay in real life is a local filipino dj.
He hosts a morning radio show on Magic 89.9 FM (Good Times with Mo, Mojo & Grace Lee), a variety show: "Willing Willy" (with Willie Revilliame), a showbiz talk show (Paparazzi) and a nightly (successful) podcast called Good Times with Mo: The Podcast.
Mo Twister earned his popularity by speaking his mind. his morning show featured topics that were "taboo" to the conservative filipino audience, but instead of people turning the dial, they tuned in every morning from 6-9 am.
now with his podcast, its more sensational than EVER. Mo is joined by Dr. Gan Montenegro and a various array of guest celebrity co hosts.  each night they tackle ANY question a caller may ask.  It's exciting to hear what celebrities think about subjects such as love, relationship, family and SEX (which is still pretty much reserved in the still conservative Philippine culture).  what makes it more interesting is that, they can be themselves without having the restrictions of regular radio.  they can speak their minds, cuss if they want to, say things like clit, dick, ass, pussy,fuck and what have you. its no holds barred full on UNcensored, unadulterated advice.  
i know you're wondering, why i said that Mo was the bearer of the ugly truth.  He says it as it is, plain and simple,  he doesn't sugar coat it.  it may hurt, but you have to hear the truth.  if you called the podcast (or the radio show) saying you have a problem in the bedroom, he won't hesitate to ask you details about it and then he'll give you his two cents about it.  JUST don't get offended to what he says.  he may call ugly chicks ugly and fat guys fat... he's just stating the truth.  he doesn't give people false hopes, but he lets them know that there might be something better for them out there aside from the stuff that people (think they) want.  Mo is not for the faint of heart, seriously!! if you're the type of person that gets offended easily or crumbles like a cookie, you're better off listening to something else.  if you can't take jokes, puns, slurs or curses...don't download his podcast.  Mo's words are for those people who are ready to face the world head on, those who have accepted that life is not a movie, it may be shitty but that's how it rolls.  its for those people who are mature enough to accept that someone has to speak their mind for others to take action or to listen.
Mo, his radio show and podcast basically inspired me to make this blog.  I was one of those people who USED to get offended easily.  I actually hated hearing his voice in the morning. But listening to him every day helped me realize that life isn't all that i thought it was.  i had to suck it up and move on.. there's so many things to do in this world than to sulk and wallow.  BTW..i am now PRO REVENGE (LOL).
like his radio shows, my blog is downright uncensored...i'll tell you how it is. i won't tell you about the birds and the bees, but about sex..thats how ugly its going to get.  i will tell you what you're boyfriend/girlfriend can't say..but you can ask them and they'll say church .  and that's the ugly truth...

congratulations Mo on the successful podcast!:)

check out his blog www.motwister.com.
Good Times with Mo, Mojo & Grace Lee on Magic 89.9 Mondays - Thursdays 6-9am.  you can see him on Willing Willie Mondays - Friday 6:30-9:00pm and Saturdays 5:30-7:30pm on TV5, Paparazzi Sundays 3:30pm, and Good Times with Mo: The Podcast Monday - Friday 10:30pm - 12mn or download it from iTunes.